10 Things Nora Ephron Taught Us About Heartbreak

Legendary writer Nora Ephron would have turned 74 on May 19.

The author, screenwriter and director died in June 2012, leaving behind a wealth of beloved work, including “When Harry Met Sally,” “Sleepless in Seattle” and multiple memoirs.

She also served as the editor-at-large of Huffington Post Divorce. It was a fitting title; the twice-divorced writer taught her fans virtually everything they needed to know about surviving heartbreak. Really, no one could express the intricacies of a broken heart quite like Ephron.

Below, 11 lessons Ephron taught us about heartbreak.

1. Divorce isn’t the most important thing about you.

“The divorce has lasted way longer than the marriage, but finally it’s over. Enough about that. The point is that for a long time, the fact that I was divorced was the most important thing about me. And now it’s not.” — I Remember Nothing

2. Life goes on — and it’s entirely possible to find love again.



3. Hindsight is 20/20.

“I married him against all evidence. I married him believing that marriage doesn’t work, that love dies, that passion fades, and in so doing I became the kind of romantic only a cynic is truly capable of being.” –Heartburn

4. Embrace your single status.



5. You never really know a person until you divorce him or her.


–I Feel Bad About My Neck

6. At some point, you just need to get over it.

“I was just with someone complaining about his mother. He’s 70 and his mother is dead. I sat there thinking, ‘This is unbelievable.’ He was complaining about things she did to him when he was a kid. There are also a lot of divorced people who five years later are still walking around angry when they should be grateful. They love being victims. You get to a certain point in life where if you were younger you’d say, ‘Think about getting a shrink.’ Then you get older and want to say, ‘Pull up your socks. Get over it.’” — From an interview with The Wall Street Journal

7. Divorce lasts a lifetime.


–HuffPost Divorce tagline

8. Eventually, you’ll ask yourself: What the hell was I thinking?

“It’s always hard to remember love — years pass and you say to yourself, Was I really in love, or was I just kidding myself? Was I really in love, or was I just pretending he was the man of my dreams? Was I really in love, or was I just desperate?” –I Feel Bad About My Neck

9. It’s easy to forget the good in past relationships.

“People always say that once it goes away, you forget the pain. It’s a cliché of childbirth: you forget the pain. I don’t happen to agree. I remember the pain. What you really forget is love.” –I Remember Nothing

10. You are enough.


–Wellesley Commencement Speech, 1996

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